Are You Coachable?
“Those who disregard discipline despise themselves, but the one who heeds correction gains understanding.”
Proverbs 15:32 NIV
“Faithful are the wounds of a friend, But the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.”
Proverbs 27:6 NKJV
“Brethren, if anyone among you wanders from the truth, and someone turns him back, let him know that he who turns a sinner from the error of his way will save a soul from death and cover a multitude of sins.”
James 5:19-20 NKJV
Have you ever tried to correct someone on their choices, and they tell you what you’ve done wrong? Or what about the people who don’t want you to tell them if they’re making a poor decision, and feel like “it’s my life, let me mess up on my own.” Huh? Why would you want to do that?
I don’t know if these things bother anyone else, but they get under my skin. Y’all pray for me!
The point of wisdom is to basically have a scholarship to life. You’re learning at someone else’s expense. I’ll never understand why people want scholarships in everything else, but life. None of us are perfect; Therefore, you can always bring up an imperfect time in a person’s life to combat the correction they may be giving you. Becoming offended by correction is incarceration of the truth.
As our foundational text in James says, helping someone who has wandered from the truth covers a multitude of sins. There is safety in correction. I believe the enemy knows this, which is why he traffics in offense. Offended people are unchanged people. If he can keep you from changing, he can keep you wandering. Wandering keeps you from destiny. Checkmate!
There’s a problem when correction offends you, but sin doesn’t. You’re offended by the advice to live pure, but sexual immorality doesn’t upset you. You’re offended by the advice to guard your ear and eyes from obscene language and shows, yet getting cussed out by your Netflix show and playlist doesn’t offend you. We make friends and build relationships based on cheerleaders, rather than coaches. “Kisses from an enemy are deceitful.” Don’t allow the need for constant yes’ to keep you from missing out on the convictions that will propel you into destiny. That ‘yes’ is deceitful to your promise.
Note to singles: God puts people together for a purpose. The relationship should always stretch you. Think about it. God’s love for you and His relationship with you stretched Him on a cross. If you haven’t grown since their entrance into your life, maybe what you’re calling compatibility is really shared dysfunction.
“Those who disregard discipline despise themselves.” We cannot keep calling Jesus the Prince of Peace, but want everything but Him to have some. Sound correction fixes errors. You may not always like what someone tells you, but don’t disregard it as truth. Sometimes the very thing that offends you is also the most valuable piece of advice you need.
Are you one who heeds correction?